Thursday, 11 April 2013

The First Move

Posted by Nuyul Aishah Parker at 10:56 0 comments
So since tonight is the night I feel like telling a story on how our paths happened to cross and fell in love, so here it is!
It is only been what, two year, but I must say there's a whole lot of challenges, ups and downs and challenges from God to make me where, and who I am today. In the midst of having a wonderful family, and I used to have great girlfriends and enjoying my single life, I realised I am missing something. Well, truth be told, I am always dating, but never really settle down because either the men I date are jerks or they are too plain boring. Haha, excuse me for that. That is beside the point. So here goes.
Weird thing about this boy, Daeng Ramdan, I always see him in every of my social network account! Yes, every of it! From friendster, to facebook, twice or thrice since I made a few accounts in facebook. So, I admitted, I had a crush on him. Maybe because to me he was kinda cheeky looking, but just attracted. Viewed his page once or twice, chat on facebook messenger once or twice too. Didnt made much of interactions. And yes, as most people know he was attached at the intitial stage of us knowing each other.
Story goes like this, I made a new account in facebook due to a break up with an ex boyfriend.(I think!) Haha. So, he actually posted a simple hello at my wall. And yes, it goes on after that. The funny part of us exchanging digits were when I asked him for his "Kakak kau punye laki" cell numbers. He replied, "What for, you can have mine instead?" He gave and I gave him mine and he thought I was just kidding and give him a fake digits! So he called, and our first hello was when I was at the toilet, shitting. Yes, no kidding. Haha. Like I said, our relation ship starts off too wrong. Sad story. Haha.
See the above picture,yes, us and his close buddy, Shahmel. I always believe in fate and the wonders on how God want us to meet our soulmate? Me and Shahmel have been friends long before I even know Ramdan as a matter of fact. And lucky as it is, I am with Ramdan now, so me and Mel clicked instantly, a plus too since he is the only friend that I am comfrotable with maybe despite the fact I knew him longer.
First date! Ramdan lied to me on our phone conversation. He used to say to me he is the kinda like the 'abang-abang' type who will go to bed at 3-4 in the morning. I trust him on that. It all turns out lie, because when I was with him, we always argue about him sleeping on me and his tardiness! Such an ass.
So being said, on our first date, he was more than half an hour late. Why? As you have guessed, he fell asleep. Haha. On our first date, he fetched me from work, and we had late supper at Simpang Bedok. We didnt talked much, we just love to eavesdrop on others conversation and then laugh at each other. He send me home, and thats it.
Yes, like I said up there, when I knew him, he was at a very shaky stage with his ex of a few years. I didnt know until I assume. He didnt tell either. It was definitely tough. I tried to distance, but he kept coming back to me as a friend. We loved each others company so badly. I remember he will always fetch me from work, send me back to either Tampines or Sengkang at that point of time. I remembered I was just happy. Happy with him.
But sad things happened, I told him we shouldnt do this since he never clarify tome whats our relationship. And I dont want to be the reason of their separation, eventhough I am not. We parted ways. I remembered that night he messaged me asking me whether I would like to meet him for the last time. I didnt want to, but I cant, I just got to. We went to Tanjung Rhu. As usual, we joke, we laughed, we hit, beat up each other. I remembered clearly we love to hit each other hands till its red and youc an see blood. He did it to me, funny thing is I let him to because I thought that was the last from us. Then, BAM! He hugged me, I cried in his arms, and he asked me to take care of myself. He didnt want to do this, because he was afraid I would go astray and let other guys hurt me. Can you believe it, he freaking said that to me? I am tearing right now, OMG!
Yes, his exact same reason whenever he said he dont want to leave was because he dont want to be like any other guy I knew before. We hugged, I cried alot that night. I saw his phone with his ex picture on the wallpaper while I was deleting my number from his phone and unfriend him in facebook, but I thought, heck this was the last night. Everythings going tobe fine soon for me. Just to see him happy. I vividly remembered when he was sending me at the door step he hugged me, held my head up and fucking cry infront of me! That was just heart warming or sad you may say. We bid goodbye and hugged for the supposedly last time.
Sad huh? But thing is, we can only be separate for a week! he eventually messaged me in facebook back and send me a friend request. He said he couldnt help but to think of me. And that was exactly how I felt. I remembered before we went our ways, I always tell him to listen to Bruno Mars, "Talking To The Moon." That song was our song, till today.
So yes, eventually he ended and settled everything over at the other side. And we did the whole routine of spending time with each other together again, falling in love again, with all the right reasons and feelings. No doubt, I knew I was far away from his ex of a few years. I was a new rebound girl. But I fought for him.
I met his family, he met mine. His family was amazing! They were so welcoming and always made me feel so comfortable at their humble home! Side that his mother is such a great cook and cook so many delicious stuffs! He was comfortable with my family too. Speaking of which, he actually met my parents even before we were together, when we were jsut friends. Daddy always know I have the heart for him. Daddy always taught me to pray to God to ask for guidance and open up his heart for me. Daddy saw me cry, laughed and daddy knew how happy I was with him. I am glad the fact that his Dad dotes on me jsut too much with plenty of gifts, and so does his mother. Like I said, I am truly am very blessed. I may lose some in this journey, but I definitely have gain much more.
Without no proposal, and trust me, I dont know how the hell we decided to actually apply for a BTO together, and eventually got engaged last May. I remembered a day before our engagement ceremony he gave me a long speech on the phone, which goes something like this, " Sayang, I didnt know how it feels like to be happy until I met you. Yes, in all honesty, I did not love you as much initially, thats the reason we fought, because I always think of the ex. I was always said to be a useless man, but you made me who I am today. And I am sorry to ever say this, but I love you more today than I did at the beginning. Not that I dont love you, but I was at the  process of healing from a broken long tem relationship. I promise I take care of you and work hard for the next two years and more to give you the perfect wedding." Awwww.
Thats why I always believe, God will always know your true intention and will reward you in time to come. I am glad he gave me Daeng Ramdan and nobody else. God gave us all the challenges for both of us to be stronger. I have lost people so close whom I called sisters, I had been called boyfriend snatcher who only wants someone for his car or even his bike. But seeing where I am now, I am willing to face all that. Gone were all those days where I cry and be heartbroken. I have never been happier. Never.
Look, here I am planning on my wedding. One year has past, and the next will be our wedding day. I have never imagine myself settling down with a man I truly love with all those sacrfices we both had overcome. We cant change the past, but indeed it has made me a stronger individual. This post is tad too lengthy and I apologise for that. I have been tearing since just now. This simply shows how much the past has impacted on me.
I am left with these amazing friends. Ones I know from my fiance, and one I know since younger days. I hope this friendship I have with this wonderful people stays.
My Maid Of Honour, just like a sister I never had. Who always know how I feel, who is always there when I needed help in just anything. Indeed, one of the very few people is trustworthy.
My favourite people, ever. Enam Jahanam, and we have our little angel already. He be one next year for our wedding. Delightful. I am very much blessed with every one I have now. Alhamdulillah. I have a little, But I actually have much more to just having a little.
And lastly to my backbone, my family. Eventhough I may not always be on good terms with them, but they have never fail or even give up one me once. Without them, I am nothing. Alhamdulillah I have great parents to always remind me of things. And to keep me strong with every obstacles that I am facing.

Wednesday, 10 April 2013

Of Temporary Ink

Posted by Nuyul Aishah Parker at 02:27 0 comments

Yes I am still going to emphasise on how great Malay weddings are! As an anxious bride to be, I love the idea of every single thing that is going to be happening. Planning is tedious, yet fun and exciting indeed! I love how much fusion and mixed of cultures are in a Malay wedding.

Next up is Bridal Henna. Yes, I am one of those bride to be who loves messy and ‘busy’ henna designs on my hands on my wedding day. Maybe because I have abit too much of Indian blood running through my veins. Haha.

There are many Bridal Henna services out there, no doubt! I was at a state of confusion when I wanted to final down with my choice of vendor for my Bridal Henna. I was stuck between two; Pesona Belle Henna and the famous Syraskins. Yes, I realised it is not as easy.

Here is what Pesona Belle Henna had to offer, and this was during their promotion period, and was I tempted to just grab it with that kinda price! Who wouldnt, tell me!

Simple Bridal Henna - $90
- Hands & Feet (With tip capping)
- Length of design: Wrist & Ankle
- Transportation charge NOT included*
Exquisite Bridal Henna A - $130
- Hands & Feet (With tip capping)
- Length of design: Above wrist & ankle
- Transportation charge NOT included*
Exquisite Bridal Henna B - $170
- Hands & Feet (With tip capping)
- Length of design: Midlength & ankle
- Transportation charge NOT included*
Exquisite Bridal Henna C - $220
- Hands & Feet (With tip capping)
- Length of design: Elbow & calf
- Free bridesmaid's henna (1 pair of hands)
- Transportation charge NOT included*
Intricate Full Bridal Henna Package
- Starts from $160 onwards, depending on length of design requested.
- Hands & Feet (With tip capping)
- Free bridesmaid's henna (1 pair of hands)
- Transportation charge NOT included*

And everybody I think know what kind of packages Syraskins offer. As per below! Yes, no doubt its kinda too over my budget.

As for me, I love how Pesona Belle Henna was really under my budget, which play a major thing for me. And their designs are quite nice and fairly pretty and ‘busy’ for me.

As for Syraskins, in all honesty, I was taken a back by their packages prices. As you can see above, you can see what kind of differences this two company offer! I asked Ramdan for his opinion, and him being him let me the freedom to choose and not to see based on the price. One thing I love about my man is, he will always say, “ Biar mahal, asal cantik. Sekali je kahwin, if tak cukup duit I will try to work for it.” Yes, my man is that amazing!

Knowing I am like any other girl, he knows some girls just needed to be pretty and he says to me not to care about the price, as long I am happy. Whoever said being with Ramdan, I have to suffer financially? No, my  life is more than worth it, not including all the money and the hardwork he had to sacrifice for us!

Okay! Back on track! I showed to my parents which vendors has the nicer outcome and both opted for Syraskins. So yes, its final that I have choosen Syraskins for my Bridal Henna on my big day!

Here are some of the designs from Syraskins that I am in love! Looking through it just make me more excited for my day. And to end this, no, it doesnt means Pesona Belle Henna is not pretty, it is! Just that after much considerations and opinions from people around me I have chosen Syraskins. Yes, I love 'busy' designs, they are just so beautiful to me. hehehe.

Yes, please weigh different vendors accordingly before finalising your option. This is important due to may recent cheats by vendors who are only jsut making money and not delivering. And also, I dont know how much it is affecting you bride to bes, but choose one you are happy with, and not only the cost. You want yourself to be looking pretty and beautiful on the day itself, am i not right? Hehe.
Lotsa love,
Nuyul Aishah Parker.

Hantaran Hati/ Exchange Gifts

Posted by Nuyul Aishah Parker at 01:54 0 comments

One of a Malay wedding tradition is the exchanging of goods or gifts between the bride and the groom. This can come in form of food consumption or presents.

In all honesty, I like the idea of it, but modern days are too, what shall I say, demanding? People will look at your gifts for each other. For the typically makciks and pakciks busybody, if its too expensive, it be waste of money. If its too cheap, it be the talk of the wedding. Well, I always live with the saying, “ Do not impress your wedding for others. Do it for yourself.”

For my engagement, I have asked my cousin’s aunt to do the dulangs or the decoration of the exchange gifts. I always have the fear of paying for people to do my work, and not having the results. Everything, even to every vendor that I have chose for my wedding. Well, we can only hope and pray for the best for things to go smoothly and no huge hiccups!

Well, this individual, Cik Kam, how I address her. Her facebook page is here. She did a splendid job on decorating the exchange gifts for my fiancé on my engagement day! It was a real beauty. Simple and somewhat, eye-capturing. Below are the exchange gifts what she did for me to be given to Ramdan. The blue is so soothing to the eyes and I fell in love straight away when I remembered she deliver it straight at my door step. Just look at how beautiful it is, makes me want to go rewind back to my engagement day!

These belows are some cakes, pulut kuning, and other decorations she did before. And I must say, since she does this only for fun, I think its amazing enough it does impress me.


She quoted me at such a reasonable price. I don’t want to disclose since most probably me and her we are family-related. But her package is 10 exchange gifts tray plus 2-3 cakes,cupcakes or fruits! I am sure she is open to public for her beautiful decoration on her service. So if you are interested, do visit her facebook page or you can get her personal number from me!
I am pretty sure she will do a good job on my wedding day for her works! I am so looking forward to it.

After A Long Hiatus!

Posted by Nuyul Aishah Parker at 00:30 0 comments
Hiatus. Yes, a long one that is. That is what happened when I changed my job drastically from being a desk bound coordinator to a FnB waitress. I dont even have time for myself, whats for to even start up the laptop to even blog my way!

All plans for my weddings are well, I can say 60% in place. Its like exactly one more year to go till its my wedding! Truth is, I want time to travel very slowly. But at the same time too, I want it to be just tomorrow.

Planning a wedding is definitely not a simple or a trivial matter. It is indeed a very tedious thing to plan for. There are definitely days when I break down and cry. This is rather personal, because I dont have much of family support, So thus the frequent numbers of breaking down. For me that is! I gotta admit, I am jealous of my own fiance of having his family all in for our wedding! I mean they all are so supporting, and have made preparations, like what, a day after our engagement? Haha.

Whats more, when I look through Instagram, or other girls blogs, or even facebook, where they have all the support and sponsors from family for their weddings, I am indeed a jealous bride to be. Well, no, not that my parents are stingy, they are just liek that since I was very little. They do not like to fork out money for their own kids. Made me feel as if everyone is not excited, where I am the first grandchild from both maternal and paternal side to get married. And I am the only princess in the family. But oh wells, how much I want to say I am used to these kinda feelings or treatments from my family, I cant because I always tear up.

But I thank God, why? Because He has sent me the greatest fiance ever. Ramdan has been patiently listening to my whines, and ehem, sponsoring me for some of my wedding vendors, and to just be there for me emotionally. Trust me not, he doesn't judge my family. He will just hug and make me smile and make sure I am only sad for a few minutes.
This man above, Insya'allah will be my responsible husband in exactly a year more! Sorry, this post is just about me letting go of my feelings. Hehe, Have a great day ahead! :)

Wednesday, 26 December 2012

Dance the night away!

Posted by Nuyul Aishah Parker at 16:52 0 comments
Like any mat salleh wedding, I want to do a wedding dance. But being Ramdan, who is overly shy about this idea just because he paiseh, I told him its only once in a life time! So, why not give in all the paiseh-ness he have and dance on our wedding night!

We be having a wedding dinner especially for Ramdan's friends and families over at his place the night after our solemnisation. I am still trying to figure out our itenary for our wedding, though. It all seems so short timed, where I need to organise time for our photo taking too!

Okay back to our wedding dinner;
I am still trying to convince my overly shy fiance to dance for our dinner night. BUT! Yes, theres a but. His family is not having their typical deejay. His family has already booked a pancaragam(?) which is Sri Mahligai for their entertainment side. I am still unsure if they are able to perform songs that I have planned for the dance. I need to find out about that soon, because, we need to practise the dance too. But all is just planning. Because I have this feeling of that there wont be any dance due to many things that could not be achieved on the night itself.

Sidetrack, I am still very much obsessed with wearing boots for our wedding day. Look at how beautiful it is! There was a wedding exhibition over at Singapore Expo over the long weekend, but sadly, I did not go. I am very much mad at the thought of not going due to personal reasons though. I could have add more ideas to my wedding day and probably engage on a decoration service provider.

And to my only one; I am sorry recently I have been throwing numerous of bitch fits and tantrums. You, no doubt, stood by me taking it all in. I shall understand better that you are working your hard ass off for our sake because nowadays you work like 12 hours every single day.  I hope we spend some quality time together soon since it has been so long since we purely just have fun and laugh and the world wait for us.

Lotsa love,
Nuyul Aishah

Sunday, 23 December 2012


Posted by Nuyul Aishah Parker at 17:41 0 comments
My kind of wedding theme for myself and my own bridesmaid. Boots, flowers and dirty places.

Other than the fact I hate to put on heels on my wedding day, I chose boots because I find it more appealing to have a country theme. I want my bridesmaid to feel all the excitement and feel pretty and having the attention to on my day. I dont have tons of girlfriends, you see. But I have in mind a few I want to 'propse' to become my bridesmaid with all expense paid by me of course. And I pray hopefully they accept the proposal! Haha.

For myself, bridesmaid are important. To make my wedding day a smooth journey. I believe in some of the girl friends I have for now that they are excited as me when it comes to wedding. Other than all that, they are the ones I trust and no doubt, ones that I love and have with me by my side.

I basically dont have a theme for my own wedding, because I have yet to decide on a decor service. But hopefully I have one by next year, so I can sort all ideas and a new to do list.

How many organise I have, I think it probably be just for display purposes. I can sit down and think and pen down my thoughts. Haha. So by blogging, I hope it can help me through my preparations and all. Since I am known to be bad at organising for myself, whats more for a wedding! My fiance's side has made tons of preparations much more than I do,to be honest. I must always remind myself of the days we are left, and to do an estimated timeline till end of 2013.

A few more days to a new year, and I hope everyone of you have a good year ahead and enjoy the last bit with tons of love and care shower for you guys. Sidetrack,ehem, and a few days left till yours truly birthday. Hahaha.

Xoxo(kental I know),
Nuyul Aishah

Thursday, 20 December 2012

Hello friday!

Posted by Nuyul Aishah Parker at 18:28 0 comments
Good morning Friday! Other than the fact, I am feeling kinda shitty and mood-less today, I try to be productive as much as I could. Been sick on and off for past two weeks;probably one of the main reason why I am on a cranky mode. I promise I will sort out ideas for my dream weddings, and put it up here for keep sake.

As many, or probably some may know, I got engaged on the 5th Of May 2012. So basically my happily ever after is slowly starting. I personally despised the idea of some teens may be thinking that engagement is nothing much. It does means a whole lot to me, because firstly, not only it helps you both to secure each other's feeling together, it helps tighten the bond between each family. Like any other princess, I want those important in my life to witness my happy and special moments. Personally, engagement also helps us to secure us, financially. Having to come up with budgets, and whats not need to be set aside for not just wedding, also after marriage as a family.

Truth be told, its not always rainbows and butterflies. But I always believe that every time I have trouble sleeping at night, it is a lesson learnt. I am the simple plain Jane where I think crying your heart is not wrong,if it makes you better and stronger.

I actually wanted to share about what I planned for my brides maid and the groom's bestmen, but since I dont feel all hype right now, I shall do it on the later post. Have a blissful Friday, and enjoy your weekend, beautiful people!

Nuyul Aishah

Till we tie the knot! Copyright © 2012 Design by Antonia Sundrani Vinte e poucos